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I am delighted to share with you today something extra special on Evolving Beings and that is, an interview that I had the pleasure of doing with the internationally renowned author Cyndi Dale.
Some of you may recall a few weeks ago I did a review of Cyndi Dale’s latest book entitled ?Illuminating the Afterlife: Your Soul’s Journey: Through the Worlds Beyond.
In this book, Cyndi does an exceptional exploration of what we can expect in death and the afterlife. It is in this book also that Cyndi takes us on a journey through the Planes of Light in the afterlife and explains how each of these planes works and when, for each of us – now or in the afterlife.
In her own expertise, Cyndi Dale is also an expert on the Chakras and has written numerous books on topics that relate to attracting and living out the life you want by knowing our Chakras and how we work as energy fields.
Thus it is with great pleasure that I share with you in this post a little more about this fascinating person who is able to share with us here on Evolving Beings some of her own wisdom and enlightenment when it comes to the topics of death and the afterlife.
Interview With Cyndi Dale
EVITA: Could you please give us a small introduction about yourself, your spiritual path and how you came to be a writer?
CYNDI DALE: Like many people, I was a natural intuitive at birth. My earliest memory involves “watching” my parents argue, the sound waves literally penetrating through the uterine walls to permeate my chest. Once born, I was able to see colors in and around people, talk to and play with angels and ghosts, and feel others’ feelings, as if they were my own.
I thought that I was normal-and maybe in another culture, I might have been considered such, except that I was a White Wonderbread Lutheran, a category of people that consider anything supernatural both questionable and devilry.
Nonetheless, I lived the spiritual life in that I believed firmly in God and Christ and in things visible and invisible. All I ever wanted to be was a writer, and I wrote my first book at age 8 – about the Mr. and Mrs. Fish Family – and wrote several plays, which I forced the neighborhood kids to perform.
Each play started with the phrase “Trouble,” as in, “Trouble in Pink,” “Trouble in the Haunted House,” and “Trouble in the Schoolroom.” At age 12, however, I shut down both my intuition and my creativity in reaction to a failed attempt to “die.”
I was unhappy and told my parents I would die. I immediately became deathly ill and after a few days, left my body. No White Light. No angels singing choruses. Rather, The Voice insisted that I return. After a few meanderings, I did, but decided I didn’t want anything else to do with God, my purpose, or my world. I only began to open up again after I started therapy at age 20.
At that age, I began writing again. I have boxes and boxes of poems and stories in the basement, most of them the swan-songs of love lost and self-pity. But write I did, until I finally put my first book together, about chakras of all things, over a decade ago. And now I write chakra books.
That’s not all, though! I’m just finishing my first movie script, a book on my client work, a trashy novel, and I’m also starting to write fables… There’s always more writing to write than one has time!
EVITA: What was your primary inspiration for writing the book “Illuminating the Afterlife?”
CYNDI DALE: I was actually “instructed” to write the book while on a plane on September 8th, 2001. Settling into a good trashy novel, I heard The Voice (God) tell me to write a book about death. I said, “No.” It wasn’t convenient and I didn’t want to interrupt my pursuit of higher literary works. In other words, I was lazy. The Voice persisted and finally, I took notes.
On the 10th, I had the compulsion to leave the business meeting early; we were supposed to stay until the 11th. I did, and on September 11th, I was on the phone with a client when the second World Trade center came down, destroyed by terrorists. My first client of the day had stayed home from work in the first Trade Center to make our call, and my third client was in the Air Force, and very informative about the terrorist events. I then began to take the subject (and my writing about it) more seriously, but it was years before I actually completed the book.
The truth is that I’ve been interested in death since I was a small child. As I saw ghosts, I knew that people didn’t really “leave.” Seeing angels taught me that there were good forces. For me, the world wasn’t concrete; it flowed and moved. It was fluid and full of grace. Heaven and hell didn’t make sense.
By the age of eight, I was reading and re-reading the Bible, to try and make sense of death, to figure out why everyone was so afraid of it. That began a life-long fascination with the subject – and the reality – of death.
EVITA: If you were to tell people about your book “Illuminating the Afterlife”, what would be the most important thing you would want them to know about the message it provides?
I want them to know that death holds wondrous things, the wisdom and experiences and teachings and love that we yearn for, when alive – AND – that we don’t have to wait until we’re dead to experience its benefits.
EVITA: After writing this book, what is the strongest connection you see between life and death?
CYNDI DALE: Love is the surest constant between here and now and then and there; and most certainly it translates prayers, teachings, and messages from one side to the other.
All else eventually passes away – our fears, tribulations, agonies, and confusion. In the end, love erases all separation, including that between the living and the dead.
EVITA: Many of us are eager to have a connection, especially with loved ones who physically died before us. From your personal experience, is it possible for anyone of us to have some lines of communication with them, and if so how can one go about doing that?
CYNDI DALE: Absolutely – with these caveats:
- the person on the other side must desire the connection
- we must really be open to it
On the above, sometimes the deceased isn’t ready for a contact. I believe that there are several Planes of Light or levels of awareness available to the deceased, and that sometimes the deceased must enter a state of privacy (from the living) to engage fully on a learning level. Especially after a traumatic or unexpected death, the soul requires its own healing and space.
Having said that, nearly EVERYONE I’ve ever talked to about this, said that at some point, he or she have been contacted by a deceased loved one. This leads me to believe that most souls MUST contact the living, in order to resolve the just-lived lifetime.
Some of us, however, aren’t really open to a contact or visitation. We might feel guilty about the person’s death, resentful about an incomplete relationship, or so aggrieved (as in engaged in our grieving process), that we aren’t open to the touch of the deceased. Grief is natural and important; it can also surround us like a grey, wet cloud, and keep us from engaging with those on the other side.
This is my advice for people who desire a contact.
- Pray or meditate with this intention.
- Release the expectation of how and when the contact should or will happen. We can’t control the other soul and the Divine might have special reasons to delay contact or format it a certain way. Release the prayer and trust.
- Be willing to receive the contact however it comes.
Regarding the latter point, I like to remind people that we all receive intuitive information in different ways. One of my FAVORITE classes to teach is a chakra-based approach to the spiritual or intuitive worlds. Each chakra houses a specific intuitive ability and we’ll be naturally more open in certain of these chakras than in others. This means that we’ll receive intuitive information in the way that will make the most sense to us.
Regarding contact with the other side, the messages might look like this:
Physical. Movement of physical objects. A loved one’s memento appears out of nowhere. You literally feel their physical presence.
Feelings. You sense and feel the presence of the other.
Mental. You start thinking about the deceased.
Heart/healing. You have a sense that he or she is sending love or healing; you feel drawn to do the same.
Verbal. You hear the deceased speak, either aloud, in a dream, or some other way. You sense they are speaking to you through something you are reading or through music.
Visual. He or she appears in a vision or as an actual form in your presence.
Spiritual You sense the spiritual and evolved presence of your loved one or of a guide or angel, which delivers a message about the deceased.
Shaman. You undertake a shamanic journey or conduct dream work in order to visit or meet with the deceased.
Harmony. You sense a change of heart and passion within you – as if the deceased is helping you formulate a new calling or vocation.
Nature. The deceased reaches you through an animal, bird, reptile, tree, or other natural form.
Commanding. Natural or super-natural forces deliver a message or announce the presence of the deceased, ie., the wind suddenly picks up and blows a picture of him or her into your arms.
Mastery. You have a clear sense of the continuation of love and are in loving communication with the deceased, as needed.
EVITA: In your book you touch upon people who have violent or sudden deaths and the consequences of that in the Afterlife. How about people who are held on life support? What is your understanding as to the reasons or consequences of such a death?
CYNDI DALE: GREAT QUESTION! First, we can’t guilt ourselves for holding people here via life support. A soul will leave or start to translate into the other side when it needs to, which is why some people, even though on life support, are unavailable, unconscious, or in a coma.
The soul has already started its progression over. Sometimes this lingering support provides a smoother transition. Sometimes it can hold a soul back – but so can the thoughts and even prayers of loved ones who are scared to let a soul move on. Some souls take a long time to die because they don’t want to cause grief to their loved ones.
In general, life support merely prolongs the transition phase; this might be challenging for the soul, but also provide a slower transition and even serve as a “gift” for the dying, so as to give the living more time to let go.
EVITA: Your book touches upon the topic of reincarnation. In many cultures, although they believe in reincarnation, they hold a belief that one can reincarnate into an animal or tree or some other non-human entity. What are your thoughts on that?
CYNDI DALE: Actually I agree. I think that we can return, at least potentially, in many forms. Since I was a child, I’ve had a clear memory of being the wind, in between lifetimes. I loved the freedom. I also remembered being a fairy in a different lifetime. That, also, was enjoyable. I think we become what we need to be, to learn about ourselves and love.
EVITA: Many people in our world are conditioned to be very distraught by death. Do you have any words of advice on how to see death in a more enlightened way?
Death is challenging, but the more we open personally to receive our OWN information about it intuitively, the more peace we will have. Recently, for instance, I received intuition information about a loved one. I was informed that she would have cancer and given a sense of the outcome. I cried, but when the diagnosis came in, I was able to be a solid support system. We’ve really only to ask ourselves this:
If I were the Creator, would I end life, at death?
I also encourage people to participate in a past life regression or an in-between life regression, at least once. We believe what we can experience. Nearly everyone who has experienced the feelings and sensations of having been alive before, believe that life continues after life.
EVITA: Thank you so much Cyndi for this wonderful, enlightening and enriching interview. Death and the afterlife are indeed topics that all of us are fascinated by and at the same time, ones about which most of us know so little about. So thank you again for sharing your experience and knowledge with all of us here at Evolving Beings.